A compilation of talent gifts received from family & friends to celebrate my #40&Fab birthday!
Four days before my birthday, I woke up with a little panicked feeling and thought, “Oh em gee, I am turning 40!!! This milestone year marking my entry into middle age cannot just go by without some kind of special commemoration!”
I hadn’t really planned anything spectacular, unlike others who celebrate their 40th with a big bang (one friend even produced her own major concert where she did multiple song and dance numbers that would rival even Vice Ganda – and yes, I bought tickets to watch it!), I thought of celebrating mine in a way that was especially meaningful to me. My idea was to ask family, as well as friends I have met at different stages of my life, to share their special talents as a gift to celebrate life. I would then compile all of these and share it here on my blog, for me and for everyone else to enjoy for posterity.
You will see that these talent ‘gifts’ I have received for my birthday are as diverse (some even crazy!) as my colorful life, which is made so precisely because I am surrounded by people who are blessed with unique abilities and special talents, whether it be writing, singing, playing musical instruments, drawing, dancing, cooking, mentoring, rewiring the mind, and even making funny voices (haha, see #12). They pay tribute to the 40 me, but I also pay tribute to them, who represent all of you, whom I have encountered in my life, and who have made this journey so far one that is truly worth celebrating.
Now time to share The Gifts!!! Hope you enjoy ‘opening’ these as much as I did. Let’s go celebrate my #40&Fab Birthday!
Tula (Tagalog Poem)
by Jennifer de Jesus
Favorite Travel Photograph
by Dennis Kudo
Mr Kudo is one of the many nice people I have encountered in one of my travel adventures. He loves taking pretty photographs and I was fortunate enough to have him take a photo of me yoga posing on top of a cliff overlooking Halong Bay, Vietnam (while he was resting and trying to catch his breath from the hike to the top. Yes, I took advantage of the opportunity because I AM a maximiser, hahaha). He has yet to add the Philippines to his travel destinations.
Happy birthday my friend, I’m so happy we crossed paths that one fateful night instead of ships passing in the night. Although we met less than 2 years ago, I feel I have known you much longer considering we don’t talk very often. Below is one of my favorite pictures as it also brings back memories from where we met in Halong Bay.
Have fun and celebrate with your friends, I’m sure you will have the best-est birthday ever. BTW, if you said it’s your 29th, I would have totally believed you!
Doodle Mind Map
(What goes on in the mind of Sankie)
by Suiee Suarez
Suiee is my colleague and fellow social and environmental resilience advocate. We call him Mr ‘Sensitive New Age Guy’ (he’s the only guy in our “Atengs” Viber Group) as he must be several steps ahead of other men in understanding us women (special recognition also for being supportive of our long hours of shopping :)) and knowing what goes on in our mind.
’80s Music Dance Party Mix
by Kuya Judd (KJ)
My Kuya (older bro) Judd is 7 years older than I am. He, along with our eldest Kuya Jorel and my older sis Ate Jovan, influenced my love for ’80s music. I still have vivid memories of Kuya Judd as a cool spinner of new wave records (yes, mga plaka pa nun! haha) at parties. Now he has a high-tech gadget for mixing music, but which he doesn’t get to use because of his hectic work sked. This is his first attempt at using the mixing gadget. Hope you had fun putting this mix ‘tape’ together, KJ!
by Nesa Tanyag
My colleague Nesa Tanyag is a professional ballerina and our in-house choreographer for office dance performances (including our crazy fun Austin Powers Christmas party dance). For Nesa, who is a ballet teacher, dancing is her life. Here she is showing her graceful moves at the supermarket, while buying stuff needed for the surprise cupcake-themed birthday party they threw for me at the office. =)
by Quintin Pastrana
My friend Quintin Pastrana, who has lived my dream of studying in Georgetown and with whom I share the love for the written word (and furry creatures), recently completed his Masters (his third one!) in Creative Writing from Oxford. His mission is to spread literacy to the farthest reaches of the country by setting up at least 200 community libraries by 2020 through the Library Renewal Partnership project.The reason I like this poem and greet you with it, is because you’ve been such a gracious person who pays forward without calling attention to yourself, and that bodes well for all your pursuits and happiness in the years to come.
Advanced happy birthday and thanks for your friendship!
Collection of Movie Lines for Sankie
by Hazel Reside
Below is a collection of movie lines depicting my idiosyncratic self and our friendship, from one of my best friends in college Hazel Reside (Chow), with whom I’ve exchanged countless loooong handwritten letters (only she can match and even outdo my kilometric letter-writing!) and share the love for films and plays. I hope we both find a boyfriend -husband who can write us equally long, beautiful letters (with perfect spelling and grammar, haha!).
Scene – I first met Sankie one hot June morning at the UP-CMC. It was 1994. We were blockmates, though I was in Film and she in BroadComm. We would eventually spend a number of lunches together, ruminate on our favorite Louie bench, leave notes for each other (hers written with colored ink and included lovely hand drawn butterfly drawings on the margins) – even when I left CMC for Econ, we made sure to stay friends. She was my college friend who unabashedly wore sunflower accessories and chunky shoes. She was one in a million.
“Okay, so she is deranged, but so, so playful.” (Alex, Everything Is Illuminated, 2005)
She ended up working in jobs that I could only dream about – producer, communications specialist, hotshot Shell exec. Jetting the world, working that yoga pose in the middle of tourist spots and industrial zones. Her successes have been well-earned, and that she is a Fortune magazine cover story waiting to happen. (Or Yes! cover story – you’ll never know.)
“The secret, I don’t know… I guess you’ve just gotta find something you love to do and then… do it for the rest of your life.” (Max Fischer, Rushmore, 1998)
I think, for someone who has achieved so much, it should not come as a surprise that Sankie’s on the receiving end of so many blessings and good will. For she has surrounded herself with people who love and support her, and possibly those who are willing to catch a bullet for her (that would be me – provided I have a Kevlar vest on).
“I am acting my age. I’m in the prime of my youth and I’ll only be young once!” (Teddy Duchamp, Stand By Me, 1986)
I would like to think that she’s the sum total of all the people and fur babies who love her. And all the pop culture references that her brain can process and love. Like that one time she pestered me to watch “My So-Called Life” with her because no one else would (Brian-Angela forevah!). Or that time her FB feed was literally an homage and shrine to this guy named David Gandy. She is both classy and kikay, cultured and jologs at the same time. It’s an odd mix, but we love her just the same.
“You are what you love, not what loves you.” (Donald Kaufman, Adaptation, 2002)
Sankie dear, I know you only asked for a couple of movie lines, but it’s hard to encapsulate you in just a few lines. So here’s what I thought to dedicate to you.
“May I admire you again today?” (Duckie Dale, Pretty In Pink, 1986)
“No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.” (John Keating, Dead Poets Society, 1989)
“You’re a beautiful woman. You deserve a beautiful life.” (Jacob Jankowski, Water for Elephants, 2011)
“Next time kiss with your eyes open. It’s a whole different experience!” (Stef Steinbrenner, The Goonies, 1985)
“I have been, and always shall be, your friend.” (Spock, Star Trek: The Wrath of Khan, 1982)
Happiest birthday, my dear friend !
Magical Keyboard Performance
by Mitchell Gimena
I knew Mitch could play the keyboards but it wasn’t until recently, when he posted a video performance on Facebook, that I realized how absolutely amazing his musical talent is!!! In fact, this was how I came up with the idea of requesting family members and friends from different circles to share their talents as gifts for my #40&Fab #BirthdayProject. Mitch performs two love songs for me, which he hopes I can someday “sing to my husband, or that he can sing to me” (I hope so, too, Mitch🙂 And will you perform at our wedding? Groom na lang po ang kulang!). Here’s Mitch with a mashup keyboard rendition of “The Gift” by Jim Brickman and “Kahit Kailan” by Southborder. This is a treat to watch. =)
Hamsa Hand Artwork
by Jizelle Simbulan
My niece Jizelle, or Gige as our family calls her, has a talent in drawing. She made this Hamsa Hand Symbol for my birthday. It is an ancient Middle Eastern amulet symbolizing the Hand of God. In all faiths it is a protective sign. It brings its owner happiness, luck, health and good fortune. Gige is studying to become a doctor and I pray that she gets to accomplish her dream. =)
Healthy Meal Preparation
by Lourdes Ruiz
Lur has been my best friend since grade school. Living on her own in Dubai, she needed to learn how to prepare her own meals and has now grown to be an expert at cooking, especially healthy meals. We are both trying to cut down on sweets. When I visited her two years ago, she was the perfect host, cooking for me and making me libre all the time, hehehe. Miss you, Balur! Pero alam ko tanggap mo na mas miss ko talaga si Addie, your dog, hehehe! =)
For my birthday, Lur cooked a healthy meal to celebrate both our journey to wellness (and sexiness – haha!). Sharing the recipe links below:
The Gift of Gab:
Top 5 Memories of Sankie in College
by Tina Bayhon-Garcia
Tina was my best buddy in college. We had such a blast in UP Diliman and were practically inseparable. Below she exposes my boy craziness and other idiosyncrasies, coupled with my drive to excel! Tina and I both share the gift of gab – we can hold a marathon conservation all day and still wouldn’t run out of things to talk about. Also, for the record: I still love Keanu Reeves! But have also added David Gandy to my obsession. Hehe.
“My Top 5 Memories of Sankie Back in College”
1. Sankie’s crushes
She loooooves Keanu Reeves! Look, she even signs her name as Sankie Reeves! Intense. She was also crushing on her Pysch classmate. Itago natin sya sa pangalang P.G.
2. That time Sankie invited Jon Santos
We were required to produce a talk show for radio and most of us just dragged, bribed or threatened unwilling friends as interview subjects. But not Sankie. She really moved heaven and earth to get Jon Santos to come all the way to UP Diliman to do a live interview. Achieve! True friend that she is, she got me Jon Santos’ autograph! As a side note, Sanks, remember John? Wink, wink…
3. Sending a photocopied greeting card
So it was a friend’s birthday and we were like, oh no, what should we give her? And Sankie goes, oh wait, I have a photocopy of a Snoopy greeting card! I could have laughed to her face and said, that’s ridiculous, why would we do that? But nooo…. I was like, what a great idea, give me a pen! What can I say? We were young and lived on our allowance. We can’t help but be a bit P.G. (not Sankie’s crush).
4. Sunflower obsession
Totally obsessed. I think she was wearing sunflower earrings as well! This went on for a while until bees started to stalk her.
5. Talking our heads off
We could talk for hours! One time we were killing time at PHAN and we’ve been blabbing for more than an hour when a middle aged Korean man interrupted our kwentuhan to tell us he’s genuinely entertained by our very animated conversation! Sanks, maybe we should just put up a talk show?
We shared so many more memories such as the pa-morningan (sleeping at the Sunken Garden under a tarp), World Youth Day (crying on your birthday because of a cranky man you accidently stepped on), running after boys (only because we had slacker History group mates), joining Univ, MCO, AIESEC, Ictus (hahaha, fail), hanging out at the Sunken G and LBB (Louie Beltran Benches), Death in the Form of a Rose, year ender letters, and sooo much more. Maybe I should reserve those for when you turn 50?
In closing, may gusto daw bumati:
Happy birthday Sankie! Looking forward to creating more awesome memories with you! Preferably something involving the Northern Lights, yes?
Voice Impersonation Talent
(Humorous birthday greeting in two different voices)
by Ron Jabal
Ron is a man with many talents (in-demand consultant for bi- and multi-lateral agencies, literary guru, even former child star and Mr Slimmers World!) but for me, his best gift is his ability to make me laugh! He is 24/7 ‘baliw’ (crazy) and because of that, we love to hang out with him. He is our comic relief in the middle of a stressful day. Ron used to be a voice talent way back (was one of the voices behind the localised “Shaider”) and to this day, he loves talking to us using different accents (British, Chinese or Indian). For my birthday, he greets me with two voices – as an Indian salesman and as Inday Garutay, with her signature gravely voice. Thank you, Ron, for disregarding your reputation as Public Relations Society of the Philippines Internal VP to humor me on my birthday. Laugh trip!
Song with Video Collage: “For Good”
By Mich Cruz-Villar (and Mike Villar)
My colleague Mich is the most talented singer in the External Relations team. She used to be the lead singer of a band in college. She is one of the members of the “Atengs” (the others being Elaine Villanueva, Christine del Valle; and the honorary group member, Suiee Suarez). For my birthday, Mich sings lines from the song “For Good”, from one of our favorite musicals “Wicked”. The song is about friendship and how it changes us for the better.
For Good (lyrics excerpt)
I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today
Because I knew you…
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good
Gown Designs and Words of Wisdom
for Beauty Queens
by Armin Adina
In 1994, the Philippines hosted the Miss Universe pageant, with Charlene Gonzales representing the country (Who can forget her witty quip:”High tide or low tide”?). We were freshies in college that time and Armin was my absolutely pageant-obsessed blockmate. In between classes I would see him drawing the gowns worn by the contestants. Now, as a journalist, Armin gets to officially cover pageants, interview the candidates and get really up close and personal. He shares some of the gown designs he made way back in the ’90s, along with winning words of wisdom gained from the beauty queens.
Enjoy these ’90s gown designs plus words of wisdom that will help you succeed in the beauty pageant called life.
by Angel Acuña-Bekalti
A poem celebrating life, written by the left- and right-brain smart Angel (aka, ‘Tangkad’), one of my best friends from Poveda high school. We may be a foot apart in height but we are of the same wavelength.🙂
For my dear friend Sankie, who doesn’t look a day over 18.
Thanks to 2 decades of friendship, laughter and lots of culture. Thanks for bringing inspiration to me and to others to live life to the full and to do things that make us happy. Thank you for your animal-loving nature and your appreciation of art and beauty. I wish for you on your 40th so much happiness and contentment and love from all your family and friends and all the people whose lives you touch. Thanks for the honor of contributing to your Souvenir Birthday Collection.
Song with Acoustic Guitar:
“I Wanna Dance with Somebody”
By Peter Bateson
I’m fortunate to have gotten to know Peter, a bright and talented young man who is now pursuing a degree in Chemistry at the University College London. Peter spent his summer internship with us last year, during which we learned he has a talent in playing the guitar and singing. I have requested ’80s songs from Peter, the first is a song of his choice and the second one is my own request (the 1986 hit song “Human” by the Human League, which was before Peter was born but which he tried to learn for me — thank you, Peter!!!). The ’80s song he chose to sing is “I Wanna Dance with Somebody” by Whitney Houston. His version is now my favourite! =)
by Faith Macam
Faith, whom I fondly call Pipay, is my 10-year old niece. Together we are #Pipay&Kikay. We love singing, animals, art and all things girly. Here she takes a selfie video singing “Birthday” by Katy Perry, a fitting song for my #40&Fab birthday! You will also hear her dog Angel chiming in the background.
Personally Designed Summer Dress
by Ria Macam
Ria (Faith’s mom, see #17), is my older cousin and very much like an older sister to me. She lived with us for a while during my growing up years, and I remember she was my confidante and stylist (fixed my hair for my grad pic, helped me choose what to wear for my HS dance, etc.). Ria is very talented in the arts – she can paint and design clothes (at one point in her career she even designed sexy lingerie!). Ria is, in fact, a professional fashion designer. For my birthday, she gave me a summer dress which she herself designed and which was approved for mass production by one of the big malls in the metro.
by Chin Simbulan and the San Beda Red Corps
My niece Chin is blessed with the gift of dance. She is one of the cheerdancers for the San Beda Red Corps cheerdance group. For my birthday, she and her squadmates made a birthday cheer especially for me, stunts and all! Amazing!
Sankie’s Own Photo Friday eDM
by Chiqui Guison
My colleague Chiqui is the Shell Internal Communications lead for the Malampaya Phases 2 and 3 Project. One of her best channels for communicating messages to the project team is the creative “Photo Fridays” eDM (electronic Direct Mail) which she releases weekly and which staff look forward to reading, since it contains easy to read and interesting project updates, matched with very nice photos. Fortunate to have had the privilege of being Chiqui’s Internal Comms mentor as her Supervisor for her first job out of college. Now, Chiqui is on her way to Qatar for a short international assignment for the Pearl GTL (Gas-to-Liquids) Project, one of Shell’s biggest gas projects, where she will be handling Internal Comms. For my birthday, Chiqui made me my own Photo Fridays! This is probably the most likes I will ever get for an ‘Instagram’ kind of post (wow! 2,700 likes! artista level :))
Spirit, Mind and Body Wellness
by Lans Bularan
Our Social Performance Team Lead Melanie Bularan (Lans) is an epitome of “stillness in motion”. She maintains a certain calmness and lightheartedness under pressure. She has begun a journey towards personal wellness, starting by becoming a Pescetarian (on fish and veggie diet), practicing and teaching yoga, learning Bowen therapy (holistic pain relief and healing) and homeopathic medicine (alternative, holistic medicine). She is also a certified Neuro-Lingistic Programming (NLP) coach. And she thinks she did not have any talent to share! Can’t wait to claim her #TalentGiftShare for my birthday! She promised to treat me to a one-on-one session on:
- NLP coaching for the mind
- Bowen therapy for the body
- Psion prayer blessing for the soul
by Christine del Valle
Tin de Valle is one of the most gracious people I know. Her cozy home in the UK is a haven for Shell Pinoys to visit and ‘crash’ in, including me, who has had the privilege of staying at what we call “Casa del Valle” (the home she has made for her family – husband Randy, and son Luigi) and being pampered by Tin’s homecooked meals and beautifully kept home interiors. She is the perfect host – she event went shopping with me for two nights in a row (at least three hours each time in just one shop, my favorite Primark – and pag-uwi namin tulog na asawa at anak niya, yaiks). Tin’s gift is hosting and she puts together images of my UK visit in 2013, as well as other photos of our friendship. I look forward to visiting you again in the UK, Tin (hopefully this year so we can watch a Westend play together!) and being wonderfully hosted once more in your lovely home. You always make us feel like royalty.🙂
by Abbey Tomas
If I hadn’t asked Abbey, I wouldn’t have known that she had a talent for papercutting, which is kinda unique! I know Abbey is a talented communicator, but cut out art is something she also does to de-stress or relax. So I asked Abbey to make a paper cut art work of one of my favorite mottos in life, “Deo Omnis Gloria” or D.O.G., which means “All for the Glory of God”. Of course, I had to ask her to add an image of a dog to go with it! Haha.
Song: “Forever Friends”
by Hazel Book
Hazel is my ever reliable and super bait na assistant. She is a blessing to our team. I’ve heard she has a talent in singing but this is the first time I have really ever heard her sing. For my birthday, she sings “Forever Friends” by Sandi Patti about how, even when life is in a constant flux, friendships remain the same forever.
Song with Acoustic Guitar: “Your Universe”
by Teng Chy
Teng is my younger cousin and he and his brothers are all musically gifted! They were all part of a band (Jobert on drums, Ogie on bass, and Teng on electric guitar). Teng is the only one who continues to pursue this path and for my birthday, I have asked him to learn how to sing and play the guitar melody for the song “Your Universe” by Rico Blanco. Not a lot of people know this song but I super enjoy listening to it – to the melody as well as the lyrics. Kudos to Teng for learning the song for me in just 3 days. =)
Secret Homemade Recipes
by Marvi Trudeau
Ms Marvi is one of the most strong-willed women I know, who really makes things happen! She is behind the success of Shell’s successful malaria elimination programme in Palawan. She, her husband Hugh and their daughter Nini live in a house on top of a hill with a magnificent view of Puerto Princesa City. Their house is called “Hilltop” and so she calls her recipes Hilltop Recipes. For my birthday, she presents me with a compilation of her secret recipes in a handy cookbook.
Nurturing a Tree
(Plus 6 Fave Book Quotes)
by Riz Figueroa
Riz was my teammate in the 2010 Rotary Group Study Exchange (GSE) programme, which gave us the opportunity to represent the Philippines in Switzerland. We also got to travel to Portugal and France together. My GSE teammates (Riz, Sharyn, Maya and Leslie) are all talented, creative and passionate women, and that time we spent together in Europe is one of the most memorable experiences of my life. Like me, Riz also had a stint as a TV producer. Now she works for an educational NGO and spends her leisure time backyard farming. For my birthday, she planted several plants in my name and has promised to nurture these for me. A lover of books, I also requested Riz to share six (6) favorite book quotes.
My Top 6 Books and Quotes (*not in any particular order)
- “There is a love that creates value in what is loved. There is a love that turns rag dolls into priceless treasures. There is a love that fastens itself onto ragged little creatures, for reasons that no one could ever quite figure out, and makes them precious and valued beyond calculation. This love is beyond reason. This is the love of God. We are God’s rag dolls. He knows all about our raggedness, and he loves us anyhow… We may be unlovely, yet we are not unloved.” – John Ortberg, Life to the Max
2. “Leadership carries a high price tag for the leader. It takes a leader’s time, commitment, personal energy, and involvement. In other words, himself. Leaders who refuse to pay the price, who do so because the value they put on their people is too low, are hirelings leaders who attend to their people only because they are paid to do so, whose hearts aren’t in it. What distinguishes a great leader from a mediocre one is that a great leader has a heart for his people.” – Dr. Kevin Leman, The Way of the Shepherd
3. “The better you understand the journey to your Dream and what God is doing in your life, the less likely you are to abandon your Dream.” -Bruce H. Wilkinson, The Dream Giver
4. “We think you’ll find that every woman in her heart of hearts longs for three things: to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and to unveil beauty. That’s what makes a woman come alive.” -John Eldredge, Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul
5. “These women are talented and gifted, fearless yet honoring, connected yet self-contained, present yet far reaching, compassionate yet fierce, pure but not naive, strong and gentle, simple yet highly strategic… Women are God-answers… You, lovely one, have a potential to be a living, breathing solution to human problems.” – Lisa Bevere, Lioness Arising: Awaken the Power of the Untamed Life
6. “We know Satan will attack weak spots first. Where are you empty? Are you hungry for attention, craving success, longing for intimacy? Be aware of your weakness. Bring them to God before Satan brings them to you. Satan will tell you to turn stones into bread (Matthew 4:3). In other words, meet your own needs, take matters into your own hands, leave God out of the picture. Whereas Jesus teaches us to pray for bread (Matthew 6:11). Satan says to work for bread.” – Max Lucado, God’s Story Your Story, When His becomes yours
Top 3 Spiritually Wise Quotes
by Dawn Shangkuan
Dawn is my diet guru! She is the reason I have lost so much weight, thanks to introducing me to the LCHF diet. Our friendship goes back to college in UP Diliman, and even then I have known her to be a spiritual person, who tries to be a model Christian. For my birthday, she shares with me Top 3 Quotes for the Spirit.
“Never lose an opportunity for seeing anything that is beautiful; For beauty is God’s handwriting–a wayside sacrament. Welcome it in every fair face, in every fair sky, in every fair flower, And thank God for it as a cup of His blessing.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.” – C.S. Lewis
“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.”– Augustine
Three Meaningful Songs
By Daday de Leon
Daday is one of my women mentors. I look up to her for she inspires me. Her life tells me that it is possible to have it all – that I do not need to choose between family (or love) and a successful career because really, we women, we can have it all, especially if we find a spouse who will allow us to grow, blossom and shine. Daday is a generous teacher and a good friend. I thank her for her guidance, for her wisdom and for always including me in her prayers. Her birthday gift for me is not just one song but three songs! These are Breathe, Lovesong and While My Guitar Gently Weeps. Singing is obviously one of Daday’s talents. Uploaded below the song “Breathe”, my favorite of the three songs. Daday says that this song reminds her that “beyond our busy careers, there is a greater space called life that can only be experienced by pausing and breathing.”
You bring out the best in me by being a grateful person in all the help that I give to you. You are an avid student, a maximizer of God’s given talent in your quest for perfection, yet grounded in realities around you. You make even the hardest of tasks seem touristy like climbing the Sydney bridge. And you are bullheaded in getting what you want but knows when to listen and wait for the right timing. I have so much love for and confidence in you that the best of your professional and personal lives are yet to unfold.
“Top 5 Memories-Slash-Lessons from Sankie”
By Elaine Villanueva (a.k.a. Bestie)
Elaine is called “Joy” by her family. I think it is the perfect name for her because she is such a cheerful presence everywhere she goes! I am lucky to have an office bestie who makes every busy day (and even the most highly stressful ones) not just bearable but a lot of fun. We have so many ‘wild’ memories together, and by wild I do not mean partying all night and getting drunk (I’m the one who has to puts lotsa ice on champagne just to make it drinkable!). By wild I mean experiences like cow hugging in Holland (the perfect image to immortalize this ‘kakaibang’ experience is the photograph below). When nobody else would go with me to do this out-of-the-ordinary adventure, she was always the one to say yes. Thanks, Bestie! Gifted in the power of words, Elaine writes about her life lessons from hanging out with me the past 8 years we have been colleagues and friends.
Top Five Memories – Slash Lessons – from Sankie
I have so many good memories with you Bestie, most of them involving food, but I think I could do a Top 50 and still have a few more left over.
Beyond the memories though, what I want to share on your very special day are the lessons you have taught me over the years we have been good friends.
So here are Elaine’s top five memories-slash-lessons from Sankie:
(1) Passion for excellence at work…
The first day we met at the office, I learned from you that what real passion for excellence at work meant. I remember thinking, as you were drilling me on SciP communications standards and policies, ‘I have to bring my A Game EVERYDAY if I want to cut it here.’ And every day from then, you still teach me that half-ass should not cut it, we have to “do our best, or not at all.”
(2) Gratitude and humility…
That time when my life was at its lowest and I was almost in despair, you cried with me but reminded me to remain grateful and be humble, and to never doubt His greater plan for all the things that happen.
(3) Patience borne from love…
I know you will make an excellent partner to that perfect man you’re destined to meet (very soon, I feel it) because you always have the most perfect answers to relationship woes (you know I have very few, but of course we all have them). You listen to me really wanting to help, but what really stuck was when you told me “when you’re waiting for Raymond, just do your own thing and don’t just wait sitting down and sulking.” Ting! Lightbulb 💡 moment! When you truly love, there should be unmeasured supply of loving patience. From then on, no sulking ever again. So now, late nights are our great way to cap off a long day, and I am most happy to welcome him home at the door.
(4) Genuine care…
Cow-hugging in a farm-no-one-has-heard-of-in-the-middle-of-nowhere during a holiday? Yes, only Sankie Simbulan can come up with that bright idea. I love how your big-heart care extends to beyond your large and loving family and motley crew of friends, how you and I share a love for animals, big or small. I love how you always think about doggie-bagging big bones for your four-legged babies at home, and for other pets without homes. Your consistent thoughtfulness and care for them is, I hope, a lesson I hope many others learn from you.
(5) Shopping prowess, unparalleled…
Fine, this isn’t really a lesson, but this just HAS to be part of our happy memories list. Whether it’s bawal-ang-masaya Brunei pharmacy shopping or at Primark in Cologne till 10pm (Cologne is an entire Top 100 list on its own), I don’t know anyone who can out-shop you. I still laugh every time I remember how that obscure mall at China drew you like a mothership calling you home, and how you always, ALWAYS, manage to smell out great stores along narrow, sometimes dodgy alleys. But I also love how you shop for gifts with so much thought, picking out treasures you know the people you love will truly enjoy.
A short list for a lot of you. But so many happy memories.
So really Bestie, on your birthday, know that it is you who have gifted me, and everyone whose lives you have magically touched.
“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.”
Word of Wisdom for when you turn 40: “Listen”
By Paulo Gavino
Paulo is my boss but who isn’t really a boss, because he is the best boss evah! He is the perfect boss for me because he allows me to be and to do my own thing, but guides me when needed. I consider him more as a Kuya (older bro) who looks out for the welfare of his little sis. His most valuable piece of advice for me now that I have turned 40, is to learn how to truly “Listen”. He shares with me the Chinese character for listen, which is written not just with the ear, but with the eyes, the mind and the heart.
January 15, 2016
Dear Birthday Girl, =)
I admire how you express yourself (clothes, words, shoes, bags).
I admire how you stretch yourself (shopping in far-off malls, bringing electricity to far-off villages).
My wish for you on this milestone birthday is the power “to listen”; with both ears, your eyes and your heart. The universe has a way of telling us the right things, and listening actively can actually make us closer to our heart’s desires!
We are blessed to be touched by you, Sankie!
Words of Wisdom from Our Chairman
By Ed Chua, Chairman of Shell companies in the Philippines
Ed Chua, Country Chairman of Shell companies in the Philippines, is an inspiring leader whom I have always admired. He has had such a profound influence on my life and I am sure on countless others. I am fortunate to stand on the shoulders of such a great leader and mentor. For my birthday, I asked him what his advice would be to his 40-year-old-self, knowing what he knows now that he is just a year from retirement, so I could learn from it. And this is what he shared, which is really about knowing what you value the most and beginning with the end in mind.
“Spend as much time as you can with your loved ones as time flies so quickly. It is so easy to be caught up in your career. Before doing anything, ask yourself if it is something you can be proud of when you grow older: Are you making a positive difference to your fellowman?” — Ed Chua
* * ADDITIONAL TALENT GIFT SHARES! * *
By Linette Reodica and her daughter Aaliyah
Linette is one of my first friends in Shell. A perfect homemaker, she loves to cook for her family and friends. Her daughters share her love for preparing and enjoying delicious food. For my birthday, chefy Linette sent me a box of freshly baked Sea Salt Chocolate Chip Cookies by her daughter Aaliyah. Even if I am on a (forever) diet, I immediately munched on two pieces in one go! Super worth it as the homemade cookies are absolutely heavenly, with the mix of sweet, salty, chewy and crumbly. Thank you, Liney! 🍪🍪😊 #HappyTummy
By Grace Bautista
Grace is a new friend I have made attending yoga at Ayala Triangle Gardens every Wednesday for the month of February. My colleague Abbey and I were early birds like Grace on the first day of Yoga at the Park and we immediately gelled with Grace’s kind and cheerful personality. We learned that Grace is actually a music teacher (she teaches kids!) and she plays string instruments (guitar, violin, viola). Grace was so kind to share with me her musical talent. Here she plays the violin (and also the guitar background) for “I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz, which is also one of my favorite songs.🙂
Grace’s message: Here’s the violin cover of Jason Mraz’ song “I Won’t Give Up”. It’s my favorite song for a lot of reasons, but primarily it’s me saying “I Won’t Give Up” on myself, and that I have a lot more to learn in life through everything. And so I share this with you, on your 40th birthday (seriously, you don’t look 40 to me — I was actually surprised) that you may always stay grateful and positive, and best of all to find joy in everything. Cheers to another wonderful year in your life! I’m grateful to have met you. See you soon!🙂
By Lexter Yap
Lexter was one of the stargazing enthusiasts I met at the Astro Camp (overnight stargazing camp organized by the Mind Museum) in beautiful Lake Caliraya, Laguna. We were one of the few who fought slumber to wake up at 3am so we could catch the clearest view of the Milky Way. I only had my phone to take photos of the stars, while Lester came prepared with his DSLR camera. His photographs are breathtaking!
written and read
By Rem Tanauan
Rem is one of the deep, philosophical, talented and creative people I met at the Law of Attraction 3-day workshop organised by The Holistic Retreats. He is a teacher, poet, dancer, storyteller and profound conversationalist all rolled into one! Rem is a Love teacher (yes, with a capital L!), well-being facilitator, practitioner of I Ching and teacher of ESL (English as Second Language). He says his life’s mission is to begin an education of Love as a creative spiritual practice, the very fundamental essence to transform one’s self, society and the world.
As a talent share for my milestone 40th birth year, Rem shares a beautiful poem he wrote entitled “Again”, with words that very vividly and movingly depict the soul’s oneness with nature. He also video edited and voiced the poem for my birthday blog, with the help of his equally talented, creative and deep significant other Claire Madarang, who I also had the pleasure of meeting at the same workshop.
Two Peas in a Pod. Rem and his significant other Claire, who are both creative writers and teachers of well-being.
I wrote again while Claire and I were doing an ocular at the retreat center of the Sacred Heart Novitiate in Novaliches. She was about to conduct her Pagnamnam workshop. I was sitting on a swing installed at one of the huge and strong branches of the mother Balete tree in the area. I have been there for several times now, and the place never fails to amaze me – I always feel as if I was entering the Shire, home to the Hobbits of Middle Earth, haha!
While waiting for Claire, I had my moment – watching the leaves and branches of the trees (though I don’t have exact photos of the place, I instead captured the scene in words) Inspired by the work of British poet David Whyte and Irish poet John O’Donohue, whose poems evoke deep sense of sensuality and spirituality with nature, “Again” is my poetic expression of that experience – of how words, nature and the witnessing soul intersect, the intersecting point being poetry.
When you asked me to contribute on your birthday project, “Again” was the first poem that flashed in my mind. I’ve felt it captures your happiness, your positivity, your celebration of life, the one Claire shared as “Pagnanamnam” In fact, even its overdue, I’d already seen how this short video would come about. And what’s good thing about this is that, I’m brushing up well with my very basic video-editing skills, yey! This project really has multiple blessings!
Parkour and Calisthenics Exhibition
By Coach Mark Julius Rodelas or “Jaymark”
Coach Jaymark is Head Coach at Ninja Academy PH, Manila’s first and only indoor parkour facility. I try to train with him once a week, mostly for core strengthening exercises and for parkour, which is an art of movement and discipline that utilizes agility, strength and speed while free-running and traversing from one place to another, effectively overcoming obstacles along the way. Even if I am probably his weakest (not to mention slowest!) and most scaredy-cat of students, he encourages me to stretch my limits. He is an athlete by training, and one of his sports achievements is winning silver medals for the 400-m dash and 110-m high hurdles at the Asian Open 2012 in Phuket, Thailand.
Coach Jaymark says: “Both Parkour and Calisthenics have been a major life-changer for me. It has given me a newfound respect for myself, and a way to conquer my fears. It has also helped me to meet new friends from diverse backgrounds. It has made me a better person by giving me more confidence in myself and in my abilities. Through it I have learned to creatively work with any environment, and I have become fitter, healthier, happier, and wiser. I’m more in tune with both my mind and body. I am more aware of my strengths and limitations, setting clear goals to improve on them. Parkour has given me a passion, a purpose, something to pursue and, at this point, a career. It has given me the best community I could hope for; I have never met so many people through any other activity that I truly care about.”
As for his message to me, his “slow-mo ninja” student, this is what he has to say: “Always believe in yourself, that you can do whatever you want. Age is just a number. Train hard and work hard to achieve your goals. Stay healthy!”
By Karla Bautista
Karla is a pre-school teacher by day, and a contortion artist by night. She is just naturally gifted with hyper flexibility. In fact, she has not taken any formal classes in contortion until only less than a year ago. As a contortion artist, she constantly experiments on how she can present her body as an art form.
As to what lights up Karla whenever she performs: “The reaction on the crowd’s faces when you do something they’ve never seen is just priceless. I hope my work inspires others to believe that you can start at any age and at any stage in life!”
Karla showcases her work on her Facebook page: Pink Lace and Leather
I still vividly remember the first time I met Karla at Contortion class. She overheard my friend Nesa and I talking about our age during class and she couldn’t help come up to us and say, with such youthful candor, “What!?! You guys are already 40? Oh my gosh, I want to look like you when I’m 40! Tell me, what’s your secret?” My friend (and fellow ‘Tita of Manila’) and I look at each other then at the young girl with long hair, fair skin and a very sweet voice (who would later introduce herself as Karla), and just had to ask, “How old are you?” That’s when we learn she is only 21! Young enough to be my daughter, I mean – if I had one. Now, Karla and I are also classmates at Beginners Pole and whenever she corrects me – whether it’s on the proper way to climb a pole or to execute a new pole trick – I do feel like we are cool mom and daughter just hanging out together. Haha! What’s more, we also plan to take Adult Ballet class together and fulfill our childhood ballerina dreams.
Femme Hip Hop Choreography
By Dianne Sulit
The first urban dance class I attended was with coach Dianne Sulit, who teaches Femme Hip Hop at Acts Dance and Arts Academy, which she also owns. She is such a cool, friendly and kalog teacher who makes learning to dance a lot of fun (not to mention less intimidating!) for newbies like me. She says she has been teaching dance for 10 years now. She has also performed with the all-female urban dance group “The Stylettos” on television noontime and variety shows, as well as concerts of local and foreign artists since 2008. She discovered her love for dancing at a young age — way back in grade school, where she joined dance clubs and cheer dancing. Her passion for dancing is just infectious and her students are invigorated by her boundless energy.
Coach Dianne has so many dance videos online but the one I asked her to talent share is the first urban dance choreography I learned from her, to the groove of Ellie Goulding’s dance song “On My Mind”. She teaches us a portion of the dance steps in each class and when it’s complete, she asks her students to perform the whole choreography. Of course we just had to ask her to dance her masterpiece for us and show us what real femme hip hop is all about, which for Coach Dianne is a dance style where she can fully express herself.
Her message for newbie dancers, including those who start late like me: “Go for it. It’s never too late. Well, physically of course there might be restrictions already because of age problems, haha! But who cares right? You might not be able to dance like the professionals out there but dancing will surely make you feel great. If you want challenge and fun, then go ahead and learn to dance!🙂 Pak!”
The Stylettos is an all-female urban dance group that envisions to raise the standards of dancing through excellence and a vicinity where individual style is encouraged that is bonded with God centered hearts. We hope to deliver a unique style this is true and absolute to ourselves mixing both skill with style and distinctiveness as a whole.
#40 and #41
Harp and Piano Performances
By Karen Agabin and her son Cush Agabin Casimero
Karen is probably my most cultured colleague. I remember an office out-of-town gathering where we had karaoke night and all of our song choices were pop songs — but not Karen! Hers were either theatre (Broadway and West End), classic and operatic songs. She loves foie gras (I even had to Google the spelling of that, haha!), introduced us to free-range chicken, cacao nibs and raw food, and is an advocate of everything organic – from food to health and beauty products like my now favorite Lawiswis from Palawan! No wonder she has not aged at all since the time I met her almost a decade ago. She tells me age is just a number and she is my inspiration for pursuing passions even as an adult (would you believe she joins her kids at gymnastics training!?!).
For my birthday project blog, she performs a harp performance entitled “Minstrel’s Adieu”, one of her favorite recital pieces. Yes, Karen also plays the harp! Not a surprising choice of instrument from our very cultured Karen. In fact, her harps were one of the first treasured possessions she saved when floods from typhoon Ondoy (Ketsana) completely submerged her home back in 2009. She has been playing the harp since 2008 and has received private training in the UK and US from international concert harpists. Why the harp? Karen says she simply fell in love with the sound of it. Her performances are by invitation only but if you’re lucky, you can catch Karen and her family playing their musical instruments at the parks in BGC (her kids are equally musically-gifted).
As a bonus talent gift share, Karen asked her 15-year old son Cush to perform on grand piano. Cush’s piano piece is Carly Comando’s popular piano piece “Everyday”, which has a video that went viral when Carly collaborated with Noah Kalina to provide the instrumental piano piece for a six-minute stop action video showcasing a photo of Noah everyday for six years of his life. Karen says Cush is a naturally-gifted musician who started playing the piano at age five, and can now also effortlessly play the guitar, recorder and harp. Truly a family of talents!
I am truly #Blessed
I dedicate to all of you one of my favorite poems, “The Journeying”. It was written in a bookmark given to me by one of my best friends back in college (Tina #11). I thank everyone who has been a part of my life’s journey so far, even if just for a brief time. The 40 me is the sum of all my life experiences and really, it’s been Super.
“If you give a little love you can get a little love of your own.”