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Lola Nidora’s Lessons in Love and Life

Lola Nidora’s Lessons in Love and Life
Lola Nidora finally gives Yaya Dub's hand to Alden saying: "Ito na ang tamang panahon."

Lola Nidora finally gives Yaya Dub’s hand to Alden saying: “Ito na ang tamang panahon.”

The words of Lola Nidora resonated throughout the 55,000-seater Philippine Arena and to the millions of Filipinos glued to their television to witness “Tamang Panahon”, the long-awaited union of Alden and Yaya Dub (AlDub) in front of the entire AlDub Nation. For those of you who missed Lola Nidora’s wisdom-filled message or who heard it but want to savor it some more, here it is in full!

Lola’s message on patience, perseverance and waiting for the right time, is a good reminder for all of us who live in this fast-paced world, where everything seems to be quick and easy. Good things truly come to those who wait!

~ Anyone can make you smile but it takes someone special to make you happy ~

Lola Nidora’s Top 6 Lessons in Love and Life:

Advice #1:
“Dapat pinagtiya-tiyagaan – lahat ng bagay, pinag-susumikapan; lahat ng bagay pinag-hihirapan. Walang hahantungan ang bagay na minamadali.”

~ If you believe in it, fight for it. ~

Advice #2:
“Kailangan paghirapan, pagsumikapan, yung may puso.”

~ You know it’s true love when no matter how far the distance is, he can still make you smile. ~

Advice #3:
“Ang paghihintay ang nagbibigay ng tamis sa mga bagay na inaasam. Kapag madaling makamtan, madali ring makakalimutan.”

~ Love is sweet when it’s new, but it’s sweeter when it’s true. ~

Advice #4:
“Sa pag-ibig, walang malalim na dagat. Walang malayong landas. Maganda ang bagay na pinag-hihirapan, pinag-susumikapan, pinagtiya-tiyagaan at dumarating sa tamang panahon.”

Advice #5:
“Walang naiinip sa taong tapat ang hangarin. Walang susuko sa taong totoo ang tibok ng puso. Ang pag-ibig ay magtatagal sa mahabang panahon kung ito ay hinihintay sa tamang panahon.”

~ Anyone can say I love you but not everyone can wait and prove it’s true. ~

Advice #6:
“Mas masarap ang mga bagay na pinag-hihirapan natin, mga bagay na hindi pinipilit; hinihintay ang tamang pagkakataon; dumating na hindi inaasahan; binabago ang mga buhay natin.” And after Lola Nidora says this, she motions for Yaya Dub and Alden to finally join hands, ending with the words everyone have been waiting for, “Ito na ang tamang panahon.”


Here’s a bonus – the titles of all the uber kilig OPM songs that make up the AlDub Tamang Panahon Playlist: =)

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Say It




I held my breath, you didn’t say it.
I closed my eyes, you didn’t say it.
I said a pray’r, you didn’t say it.
I made a wish, still, you didn’t say it.

You were afraid of getting hurt,
couldn’t bring yourself to say it.
You were unsure of how I felt,
wouldn’t risk your pride to say it.
I spoke the truth without restraint,
thinking that you would finally say it.
You kept on holding back,
and I lost hope that you would ever say it.

I believe we feel the same,
If only we stop playing this silly game;
I wish you knew,
it’s always only been you,
and that all you had to do,
was say those three little words
to rock my world,
but then you chose not to say it.

[This poem was written many years ago for the object of my affection. Publishing it here for posterity. This poem was actually selected for publishing in a book of poems now stacked somewhere in a library in the US. ♥]

Finding love


Today I signed up for two online dating sites. I’ve decided to take my love life into my own hands and be more proactive. I paid a hurtful amount for one site — and will have to scrimp on my expenses this month to be able to pay off my credit card bill (that’s after buying six pairs of shoes in KL — Vincci, of course! and Smashbox make up and applicators, and so many other what-have-yous in Duty Free).

Every time I go to the numerous profiles of men searching for their match, I somehow always end up getting turned off. It’s like — Nope, not my type! Yes, this one is okay, but what if he’s crazy? What if he’s a bum? This photo was taken sometime ago, maybe he is balding now! Oh no, he misspelled a word, and more words! (As if I don’t, right? Thank goodness WordPress has spell check!)

The whole process of elimination just seems all too shallow. I, become too shallow. But that’s how choosing your match from a dating site can be — like shopping. At the end of the exercise, you feel a tad bit empty.

Even if I signed up for these dating sites (a security blanket, really; just for the consoling thought that I am not wasting any time or opportunity to make something happen with my love life), deep down, what I truly wish, is that I meet the man of my dreams serendipitously (which reminds me, I’ve been wanting to watch Serendipity again — and maybe I should, just for inspiration). You know, encountering him at probably the least moment I expect it; bringing not a shallow feeling but a joyous and utterly grateful smile to my heart.

Whenever I travel abroad alone, I always half-wish that I’d meet someone — not just someone, but that someone who will change my life forever for the best and happiest ever after. When I board a plane, for example, I wonder if this is the day he will be sitting right next to me! Now, don’t I sound just like Amelie? In my last long flight, the chair beside me was empty and next to it was an old, obviously very married man. But over to the other aisle was a really eligible looking man who was every bit my type, but bummer, he wasn’t strategically seated for me! It makes me wonder if it is my half-wishing that keeps the moment from happening. It probably spoils God’s surprise!

So now I must make the most of my subscription to the dating sites because, heck, I paid for it (a hurtful price, I should say again). Frankly, I am rather cynical about finding my match there but it’s worth a try.

My silent prayer: Oh, dear God, please just send him to me. Soon, I hope! And make me be ready. I think I am already. I still hope it will be serendipitously. But You would know best how to surprise me. When it’s You who chooses for me, I know that there can be no second-guessing. Prepare me for the best surprise ever. Amen. 🙂


An excerpt from my online dating site personal profile:

About Me and Who I’m Looking For:

I want to spend the rest of my life with the one meant for me! I’d like to believe that somewhere out there is the person who will make my heart skip a beat, take my breath away, make my insides flutter and bring out my brightest smile. I’d like to come home to my split-apart, the one who will accompany me throughout this journey, marveling at how wonderful life is and how each day can be full of joy and contentment.